• Date Online Safely Posted by Admin

    Online dating is one of entertainment for teens those days. It’s easy to access and free way to enjoy life, make new friends and fall in love.

    However, it seems like Teens take everything as easy at it can be, and do not think about online dating consequences. Teens as much as their parents need to be concern about safety while being online, because every time they log into servers, leaving digital footprints it’s a great way to being hacked or become abuse victim.

    What shall all teens remember while dating online?

    1.Beware of addiction

    Not only spending too much time online can be a sign of addiction. Teens need to be careful to fall in love or like the person with whom they are talking too. Showing positive emotions to the person behind the screen without knowing much about him/ her might occur problems.

    2.Online dating site rules & law

    Be sure to check any terms & conditions before register to any online dating site, even the one targeted only to teens and young adults. Online communities can be full of deceit and lies due to the anonymity they provide. Do research and find recommendations on communities.

    3.Know that online dating is somehow “real”

    There’s always a real person behind the screen, no matter if this person is telling truth or not. Do not follow your heart over your head. Think wisely and make proper decisions. Do not make promises which you cannot keep in the real world.

    4.Be smart

    Do not act unwisely. Think well before making any decision. Take baby steps to know the person who is attractive to you. Enjoy online dating & chat but remember that this mind leads you somewhere you do not want to go.

    5.Be realistic

    It’s easy to build a relationship online, however, it might not last long enough. Do not have any high expectations that the boy you’ve just met online will be the ONE. Temper your expectations and be prepared.

    6.Take it slow

    Do not rush in your decisions, think wisely, ask your parent or guardian in the case of any doubts. Communication has gotten much faster with mobile phones, SMS, online chat, instant messaging, social media. It works great online but it’s totally different in the offline world. To build communication, trust and fundamentals of good relationship or friendship, much time is needed.

    7.Make a safety plan

    You never know what and when might get wrong. Online dating has led to kidnapping and murder more than a couple of times, so make a plan with your parents/guardians. This might be some special code between you and parent while on a date or asking for a picture with family members of the person you are supposed to meet.

    Tip for parents: Online world can be tricky for your teen. There are millions of predators out there, so put the right safeguards in effect to protect your family. Abusive behaviour has a great way to spread online. Be sure to talk to your Teen about online dating, including teen dating app, communities for young adults and how to distinguish danger and red flags. Do not be afraid to install parents control filters on the web browser and ban sites which your Teen shouldn’t see yet.

  • Tips for successful teen date Posted by Admin

    Teenagers during their growing up and become adult time spending hours on thinking about more adult matters like future, satisfied work, good education and obviously dating. When it comes for dating sources says that even Teens around 12 years old are starting to meet opposite sex to spend time together. Many of teens despite of their age struggle a lot and feel uncomfortable while dating and have no idea what is expected from them on a date. However they are ashamed and scared to ask parents about some tips and advices for proper behavior. In this article we would like to recommend a few useful tips for a successful date.

    For Girls:

    Find the right person. This is the hardest part when it comes for dating however you can deal with this well. Remember to check possible date around your classmates or your school friends. Be selective and do not agree for going out with a person who you don’t like just because you pity this person or you feel alone. Don’t be desperate. Also we recommend dating boys around your age since their maturity level is similar to yours. Before planning something serious get to know the boy who you are hanging out with.

    Staying safe and drama free. This is another crucial point in successful dating to keep you safe. Young girls are easy target for any kind of abusive behavior. Make sure you are ready to start dating. There’s no need to be hurry. You have all life ahead so if you start dating now or in couple of months don’t make a big difference. Remember there’s no age when you are supposed to date. It's important to mentally set boundaries for yourself before you start dating. Otherwise, you may find yourself getting into situations you don't want to be in. Also remember to use protection. Sex is risky if you cannot keep yourself protected either from unexpected pregnancy or any kind of STDs. If you have a best female friend try to organize a group date. It’s awesome and alternative idea of dating if you are still afraid to meet your date face-to-face alone. Keep your relationship out of public until you both decided this is proper moment to get things official. This will keep you away from any kind of drama and bad comments from other people. Watch out for red flags. Red flags are things your date may do or say that are warning signs of a bad relationship or even abuse to come. To keep safe and ready for any bad situation always remember to tell your parent or guardian where and with whom you are going to meet.

    Going on a date. Prepare yourself well, wear your best and most comfy clothes however try to look a bit elegant. Apply light makeup if you feel like doing so. This will make a good impression on your date. Don’t be late! If you know that you’re going to be late inform your boy by short text message or call. Try to avoid touchy subjects especially when it’s your one of first dates. To stay out of drama you should probably not bring up or discuss certain sensitive topic. It’s good to offer to pay or do a “Dutch pay” – sharing pay. If you are interested in another date with this same boy, try to talk about it before you both say goodbye. Be yourself, keep it cool and the most importantly, relax.

    For Boys:

    Be respectful.First and foremost, your girlfriend will want to feel like you care about her as a person, not as an object. Many young boys are treating their dates as kind of achievement. Don’t be one of them. Be a gentleman and show your interests in dating her.

    Offer to pay for the date. This will make your date feel you like them more than your money and this is in right tone. However, depends on the girl, she might feel uncomfortable and would rather go into sharing payment or pay for herself. Don’t take it too personal and let her do what she wants.

    Be yourself.Offer to carry her books for her, open doors for her and call her parents Mr. and Mrs. when you meet them. Be a gentleman and show right behavior in any situation.

    Practice chivalry with women. Offer to carry her books for her, open doors for her and call her parents Mr. and Mrs. when you meet them. Be a gentleman and show right behavior in any situation.

    Talk to your partner.Let them know some of your interests, whether it's in movies, books, or music. It’s good to know each other’s passions and for sure will lead you to be more close and serious in a relationship. Of course remember the things your girlfriend likes and surprise her with a small gift related to her hobbies.

    Give compliments.Smile while speaking, make eye contact consistently and always look directly at your date when they talk to you. It’s highly forbidden to play mobile phone while have a chat with your date, or avoid eye contact. This way your date is not going to work. Smile a lot to show your date you're having fun and that you genuinely like her.

    Subtly show your interest. Smile while speaking, make eye contact consistently and always look directly at your date when they talk to you. It’s highly forbidden to play mobile phone while have a chat with your date, or avoid eye contact. This way your date is not going to work. Smile a lot to show your date you're having fun and that you genuinely like her.

    React properly. If your partner is not reacting well to the date, does not want to hold hands when you try to hold it or doesn’t speak to you easily then back off for a while. However if you feel like your partner is being bored, cut the date and take her home.

    Teenager dating is a hard and challenging matter however if you keep in mind those tips we presented above, you will success. Please remember that dating ability comes with a matter of time and need lots of practice. If you fail or end up with broken heart, remember there are many ups and downs in life and you shouldn’t be depressed and give up everything. Practice makes perfect. Good luck.

  • Questions you would be afraid to ask your parents. Posted by Admin

    Asking questions is both most hard and most easy thing in the world. Being a teen is not an easy game when it comes to asking questions and gets proper answers. Scientists claim that teenagers are afraid to ask questions because they don’t want to be judged by parents or guardians. Another reason why they prefer to avoid questions is being uncomfortable with themselves and ashamed of ideas they might have inside head. We are here to help you, and we are coming up with most common question that teens are afraid to ask parents.

    What I should know about losing virginity and sex?

    Sex is something magical between two people and for sure you shouldn’t have it with a person who you don’t know at all. Not only random sex might have bad consequences like unexpected pregnancy or STDs but also will have negative influence on your adultery life in the future. Before having sex be sure that you trust that person and you both discuss it. Please remember that sex is good only when you protect yourself in proper way. Always use condom. If somebody wants to have fun without it, do not accept such conditions.

    There’s no proper age to lose virginity however we do recommend not starting your sexual life until you truly feel your both body and mind are ready for it. Have an adult shaped body doesn’t mean you need to have sex already. The way how you will lose virginity will have influence on your future sexual life, that’s why first time is quite important and you shouldn’t rush with this just because your best friend already “did it”. Every person is individual and nobody can push you to have sex. Take your time and do it with proper mate in proper time.

    How to get into relationship?

    Getting into relationship is not a piece of cake. To have good relations with another person, doesn’t matter if it’s for love or friendship, you need to put a lot of trust and effort. You can’t force the person you like to be your boyfriend/ girlfriend, all you can do instead is wait and take your time. Be yourself and don’t pretend somebody who you are not. Don’t lie and don’t be rude. Be honest and interested about life. Expand your horizons and hobbies. Bright and positive people are more likely to get into relationships.

    How to recognize if I love somebody?

    Love is a complicated feeling and it’s hard to define it. Many teens are getting into relationships mostly of funny and entertainment way to spend their free time. They do not think of any kind of serious commitment; however all of them want to be loved by another person. It’s really hard to recognize if those relations between you and your mate is just a deep friendship or love. Be sure that you’re not the only one who is wondering about feelings towards another person. Since its common problem among teens we do recommend to talk with your parent or guardian about it. Open up with your feelings and don’t be ashamed to say what’s on your mind. There’s nothing wrong in being in love.

    What do you really think about my friends/mate?

    Choosing friends is crucial part in growing up. While making friends we define ourselves as people and part of social environment. Having friends is part of natural growing up process and making connections between people. Teens have a tendency to choose wrong friends or people who do not fit them that’s why talking to your parent about people you meet is important. You will avoid making bad choices and get in touch with people who can hurt you. Asking parents what they really think about your mates is not bad idea at all since they are more experienced in making social connections. If you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, don’t be afraid to talk about this with your mom or dad and introduce your partner in proper time. It’s important and can make your parents feel a better connection between you both.

    Do you stalk me of social media?

    Many Teens are engaged into social media since its popular and trendy way to spend free time. Unfortunately not many of them feel safe since they have obsession of being stalked by parents. Do parents really check what their kids post on SNS? Well we cannot have 100% accurate answer to this but it’s common that parents do check their kids on social media like Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. Please be assured that your parents or guardians don’t do it to have fun but to protect you if something bad will happen. Internet is a place where many abusers are waiting for victims and trying to be friends with them at first.

    Having your parent control you on social media is good way to prevent any kind of problems.

    Was I a “surprise” or you actually planned to have me?

    Unexpected pregnancy is a common problem in modern world and might be causes by many factors. Actually asking your parents if you were a planned kid or non-expected one is really hard to discuss. You might feel ashamed and embarrassed and we do understand you. Asking parents about their sexual life is not easy and might bring many negative feelings to you towards love and relationships. However being open about it might help your parents to start discuss sexual related topics. Be sure that your mom and dad also find it hard to start educate you about sex life.

    Questions can make you confused, ashamed, embarrassed however asking them are going to help you be better and more experienced person and for sure it will have positive influence in your mature life in future.

  • Pornography, is it normal sexual curiosity? Posted by Admin

    Being teenager is a complicated process of body changing and hormones which change not only the way of how your body looks like but change the way of your sexual thinking as well. Many teens start they sexual life in quite early age compared to knowledge they had achieved before start sex. Surveys claims, that Teens are gathering sexual knowledge from pornography, rather that asking adults about important matters. In this article we would like to think more deeply about pornography topic and try to give you an answer for a question: if teens interested in pornography are showing natural and normal sexual curiosity?

    Pornography accessibility

    Adolescent curiosity about sexuality is a normal and healthy aspect of human development. However due to advanced Internet technology and cable television young kids who are not teens yet are attacked with unexpected images of porn or any sexual related content. In the past kids had to “work hard” to find pornography but now it’s easily exposed in social media. Kids can came across x rated materials within few minutes. At the same time TV programs which are supposed to be for Teens, routinely shows young people engaged in sexually related situations but never discuss topics like: safe sex, masturbation or period. For a Teenager who is unsure about his/her sexuality or have any questions about sex, but nobody to answer that questions, pornography is a great ability to lick some knowledge about adultery.

    Effects of pornography on Teenagers

    The exact effects of pornography on young people are a hot topic among psychologists as well as parents. Nevertheless, numerous studies have pointed to the potential for serious harm and fake imagination of what sex really looks like. What’s more when Teen is exposed on any kind of sexual image adrenaline is rising up and a brain locks those x rated material inside. It means that later on it’s really hard to get rid of such images and erase them from memory. Teens who experience this biochemical thrill will, not surprisingly, want to experience it again. That’s the reason why pornography is addicting like a drugs.

    Cybersex addiction functions in a similar way to any other addiction, leading to a cycle of compulsion, acting out, isolation, self-absorption, shame and depression as well as distorted and damaged views of real relationships and intimacy. Adults, who were watching pornography as teens, showing disability for having normal and healthy relationship. However we are aware that not all teens are going to have such problems in the future. It all depends on what kind of x rated materials your kid had been exposed to.

    Since Internet and social media are way too opened for sexual materials, those times problem appears online as well. A related hazard for teens online involves “sexting” – sending sexually explicit photos usually over cell phones or sometimes over the Internet. Sexting is most commonly engaged in by teens between 12 and 19 years old. If we take a quick look on any teen dating website, at least half of users there have upload sexual content’s picture. This increase the pressure to have sex and meet random people offline in case of filling up sexual desires. It is really easy way to be abused as well without further notice.

    The surest way to protect teens is to be aware of what is going on with them and make it safe for them to talk to you. Finding out that your child has viewed Internet pornography is not cause for panic. Most children and teens do not suffer from sex addictions. Do not be ashamed of starting a sex related topics and explain how to things works on in real life.

  • Is it worth to give a second chance to your ex? Posted by Admin

    You had been in relationship for a while and suddenly everything came to an end. You are confused of what happened and have more negative feelings than positive memories. However suddenly your ex-partner is trying to be nice around you and asking for a second chance. This is really hard situation to handle not only for Teens but for adults as well. In this article we will try to help you to get answer for a question: Is it worth to give a second chance to your ex?

    When it’s worth?

    The length of the relationship is a huge factor when it comes to thinking about second chance. If you were together for a years or months and split up suddenly, you might find a way to work on healing relationship.

    Feelings are still there and you cannot avoid them no matter how much you tried. All the memories you both shared together will hunt you after ending up relationship. It’s totally important to be completely honest with yourself and think if you can fight back all the memories you have.

    You tried dating somebody else but all those short romances finished as soon as they started. You still compare your ex to any other mate you’re dating. It means that there’s no clear end between you and your ex-partner and you still share a feelings to that person.

    He/She is trying really hard to get back to you and for sure you appreciate this effort. You have all the rights to feel bad and hurt after what your ex did to you however you might consider the fact that this person is trying to do her/ his best for you at the moment.

    It’s more than love and you still feel attached to this person. If you share similar future goals with your ex mate, then it’s a worth to give it a try because it’s nearly sure it’s going to work again.

    You still trust your ex despite of any bad thing she/he did to you. There’s still some bond between the two of you.

    When it’s not worth?

    If he/she cheated that there’s no guarantee that this person won’t do it again after some time. Cheating is a sign of selfishness, disrespect, and unhappiness in a relationship. There’s a saying “Once you cheat, you will cheat again”. Unless your ex mate is really sorry of his/her mistake and realize it in proper, there’s no way you two can be a happy couple again.

    If he/she was emotionally abusive towards you and manipulated you in every way, for sure there’s no chance to be happy again and we do recommend running away from such person. Being abused is illegal and if somebody did that on you, ask your parent or guardian for help.

    If he/she ever physically hurt you and not even fell sorry then it’s a clear sign there’s something wrong with that person he/she will never change. If you had been experienced any kinds of violence, contact your parent or guardian for legal help. There are also special hotlines that can help and support you

    If you have to beg for second chance and after a long time you get one, there’s nothing good coming up from that situation. You shouldn't have to beg him or her for something like that. It's a sign that it's not what your ex mate really wants, and so it's most likely not going to work out.

    If he/she lied to you multiple times without thinking of any consequences then for sure you cannot trust such person. If your ex lied to you about big stuff a lot, it's not worth trying again

    If you're desperate and you want to get back to your ex just because you don’t want to feel alone, for sure it’s not going to work out. There is a “fashion” between teens to date all the time, however dating the same person who did badly to you, only to follow a “trend” and “fashion” is not a best decision you could make. That will never make you happy.

    Personally we are a big believers in giving people a second chance however in some extremely bad cases it’s clear to say that going into the same situations over and over again is not the best idea ever.