Pornography, is it normal sexual curiosity? Posted 22-APR-17 | Admin
Being teenager is a complicated process of body changing and hormones which change not only the way of how your body looks like but change the way of your sexual thinking as well. Many teens start they sexual life in quite early age compared to knowledge they had achieved before start sex. Surveys claims, that Teens are gathering sexual knowledge from pornography, rather that asking adults about important matters. In this article we would like to think more deeply about pornography topic and try to give you an answer for a question: if teens interested in pornography are showing natural and normal sexual curiosity?
Adolescent curiosity about sexuality is a normal and healthy aspect of human development. However due to advanced Internet technology and cable television young kids who are not teens yet are attacked with unexpected images of porn or any sexual related content. In the past kids had to “work hard” to find pornography but now it’s easily exposed in social media. Kids can came across x rated materials within few minutes. At the same time TV programs which are supposed to be for Teens, routinely shows young people engaged in sexually related situations but never discuss topics like: safe sex, masturbation or period. For a Teenager who is unsure about his/her sexuality or have any questions about sex, but nobody to answer that questions, pornography is a great ability to lick some knowledge about adultery.
Effects of pornography on Teenagers
The exact effects of pornography on young people are a hot topic among psychologists as well as parents. Nevertheless, numerous studies have pointed to the potential for serious harm and fake imagination of what sex really looks like. What’s more when Teen is exposed on any kind of sexual image adrenaline is rising up and a brain locks those x rated material inside. It means that later on it’s really hard to get rid of such images and erase them from memory. Teens who experience this biochemical thrill will, not surprisingly, want to experience it again. That’s the reason why pornography is addicting like a drugs.
Cybersex addiction functions in a similar way to any other addiction, leading to a cycle of compulsion, acting out, isolation, self-absorption, shame and depression as well as distorted and damaged views of real relationships and intimacy. Adults, who were watching pornography as teens, showing disability for having normal and healthy relationship. However we are aware that not all teens are going to have such problems in the future. It all depends on what kind of x rated materials your kid had been exposed to.
Since Internet and social media are way too opened for sexual materials, those times problem appears online as well. A related hazard for teens online involves “sexting” – sending sexually explicit photos usually over cell phones or sometimes over the Internet. Sexting is most commonly engaged in by teens between 12 and 19 years old. If we take a quick look on any teen dating website, at least half of users there have upload sexual content’s picture. This increase the pressure to have sex and meet random people offline in case of filling up sexual desires. It is really easy way to be abused as well without further notice.
The surest way to protect teens is to be aware of what is going on with them and make it safe for them to talk to you. Finding out that your child has viewed Internet pornography is not cause for panic. Most children and teens do not suffer from sex addictions. Do not be ashamed of starting a sex related topics and explain how to things works on in real life.
Is it worth to give a second chance to your ex? Posted 14-MAR-17 | Admin
You had been in relationship for a while and suddenly everything came to an end. You are confused of what happened and have more negative feelings than positive memories. However suddenly your ex-partner is trying to be nice around you and asking for a second chance. This is really hard situation to handle not only for Teens but for adults as well. In this article we will try to help you to get answer for a question: Is it worth to give a second chance to your ex?
When it’s worth?
The length of the relationship is a huge factor when it comes to thinking about second chance. If you were together for a years or months and split up suddenly, you might find a way to work on healing relationship.
Feelings are still there and you cannot avoid them no matter how much you tried. All the memories you both shared together will hunt you after ending up relationship. It’s totally important to be completely honest with yourself and think if you can fight back all the memories you have.
You tried dating somebody else but all those short romances finished as soon as they started. You still compare your ex to any other mate you’re dating. It means that there’s no clear end between you and your ex-partner and you still share a feelings to that person.
He/She is trying really hard to get back to you and for sure you appreciate this effort. You have all the rights to feel bad and hurt after what your ex did to you however you might consider the fact that this person is trying to do her/ his best for you at the moment.
It’s more than love and you still feel attached to this person. If you share similar future goals with your ex mate, then it’s a worth to give it a try because it’s nearly sure it’s going to work again.
You still trust your ex despite of any bad thing she/he did to you. There’s still some bond between the two of you.
When it’s not worth?
If he/she cheated that there’s no guarantee that this person won’t do it again after some time. Cheating is a sign of selfishness, disrespect, and unhappiness in a relationship. There’s a saying “Once you cheat, you will cheat again”. Unless your ex mate is really sorry of his/her mistake and realize it in proper, there’s no way you two can be a happy couple again.
If he/she was emotionally abusive towards you and manipulated you in every way, for sure there’s no chance to be happy again and we do recommend running away from such person. Being abused is illegal and if somebody did that on you, ask your parent or guardian for help.
If he/she ever physically hurt you and not even fell sorry then it’s a clear sign there’s something wrong with that person he/she will never change. If you had been experienced any kinds of violence, contact your parent or guardian for legal help. There are also special hotlines that can help and support you
If you have to beg for second chance and after a long time you get one, there’s nothing good coming up from that situation. You shouldn't have to beg him or her for something like that. It's a sign that it's not what your ex mate really wants, and so it's most likely not going to work out.
If he/she lied to you multiple times without thinking of any consequences then for sure you cannot trust such person. If your ex lied to you about big stuff a lot, it's not worth trying again
If you're desperate and you want to get back to your ex just because you don’t want to feel alone, for sure it’s not going to work out. There is a “fashion” between teens to date all the time, however dating the same person who did badly to you, only to follow a “trend” and “fashion” is not a best decision you could make. That will never make you happy.
Personally we are a big believers in giving people a second chance however in some extremely bad cases it’s clear to say that going into the same situations over and over again is not the best idea ever.
How to deal with broken heart and is it possible to fall in love at first sight? Posted 15-FEB-17 | Admin
Love is magical thing but in some of cases won’t last forever. Sources say that at least once in a lifetime we experience break up. It’s a very common since in modern times we live fast enough not to think about the quality of life and emotions. We build our life with somebody we trust and care for and then suddenly it’s all gone. Being heartbroken is the hardest time after all. However it’s possible to get over it and start a new chapter in life. Some people says that the best cure for broken heart is finding a new love, that’s why in this article not only we will give teens a few tips how to deal with love’s end, but also we will take a closer look on love at first sight.
How to recover from a broken heart?
Make time for yourself. Give yourself some time to heal your mind and try to forgive the pain. Of course it won’t be easy at first but as people say “Time is best medicine” just wait and try to do many other awesome activities which you couldn’t do while dating. Don’t be afraid to feel sad and show your feelings to others. Honest talk with a parents or your best friend will make a progress in your healing process. If possible remove all memories of this person and put them away from your everyday life. Get rid of any items you received from your boyfriend/girlfriend while dating. Disconnect the person from all social networks you use and delete common pictures on Facebook or Instagram. Try not to be in same places as your ex might appear there. It will only mess with your heart and mind more than you think. Instead of this try to discover another awesome places to hangout and create new and better memories. The most important is to stay optimistic that better times will come up soon and smile a lot.
Understanding and Forgiving. To deal with broken heart you need to spend some time on thinking about your past relationship. It will help you to make healing process faster and make your mind calm. Try to figure out what went wrong in your relationship and what was the reason that you both split up however do not be obsessed with blaming your ex-partner as it’s his or her fault that your love ended like this. There’s always a fault between two people and you need to think well what your fault, not yours ex mate was. Learning from mistakes is another crucial point. Everyone makes them and it's how you learn from them that defines you as a person. If you learn well, you will never make same mistakes again. If you feel like you’re ready for it, try to forgive your ex mate. This is the hardest part in dealing with broken heart and needs a lot of courage and self-confidence in most of the cases.
Change your life around. Once you forget your ex mate fault it’s time to turn your life into something better. Lean on your friends. There are here for you and for sure they would be delighted to help you. Speak your mind and don’t be afraid to receive helpful hand. Focus on new activities and find new hobby. Try something new, something you would never tried before. Being a volunteer is a nice idea to keep yourself busy all the time. If you feel like you need some fresh air, go for a trip. Ask your parents for permission or ask them to keep your company. Once you feel ready, start dating other people again however please bear in mind that even your first time might be successful there’s a possibility that something will go wrong again.
Now when you know how to deal with broken heart, let’s move on into love at first sight. Is it possible and does it exists in modern world? Some of people say “yes”, some of them would say “no” however scientists are trying to prove that it’s possible to fall in love with somebody with a glance of eye. If you are hopeless romantic type of teenagers who are more possible to fall in love at first sign. Also people who don’t have a specific “type” of person and have open mind are more likely to get hit by love by accident.
Personally we think that love at first sight exist but in most of cases people has no idea what’s going on and can’t recognize that this “weird feeling” inside of them is actually a love.
All you need to know about condoms Posted 26-DEC-16 | Admin
Condoms are the greatest thing to ever happen in the history of sex. Not only prevent you from unexpected pregnancy but secure your body from any sexual diseases (called as STDs) such as: chlamydia, genital herpes, HIV, syphilis and many more. Regarding to great condoms advantages there’s a main question: "How much do teens know about condoms?”. Studies shows that only 3 per 10 teenagers knows what exactly condom is and what kind of protection it brings to sexual life. In this article we present most important and interesting facts about condoms.
1. Condoms have different sizes. Getting the right size condom is crucial so the condom doesn’t slide off or tear during sex. Make sure to talk to your partner before buying condoms or look at a condom sizing chart.
2. Keep the proper storage. Give a thought on how to store condoms. Giving a place for condom in your wallet is not a greatest idea ever. Condoms do not like hot temperatures and after few months in your pocket latex will be damaged. Keep them in room temperature in a drawer or any kind of storage away from humid and extreme temperatures.
3. Keep the proper usage. Do not try to rip condom’s package with your teeth since you might damage latex without a notice. Put a condom only on erect penis. If you fail, don’t be worried to start over again with NEW condom. Never re-use condoms. Condoms only work well if you use them in a correct way.
4. Various condoms. There are many condoms on the market. They come with different sizes, shapes, colours, scents. Before buying a package or two, be sure what kind of condom will be best for you and your partner. Do not be afraid and talk it over.
5. Condoms aren’t only for vaginal sex. If you’re using condoms for STD protection, don’t limit them to vaginal sex – STDs can be transmitted by oral sex, anal sex, and even sex toys.
6. Condoms do not ruin sex. It’s a popular myth between teenagers that condoms have big influence on sex’s quality. That’s not true. What’s more likely to ruin sex is a lack of communication – which probably goes hand in hand with a lack of experimentation.
7. They are perfect. Condoms basically haven't been redesigned since they were invented which means they do the right job now and ever.
8. Education about condoms. Only a third of high school students are taught how to use a condom properly. Teens who are shown proper condom use and get proper sexual education are more likely to use condoms in the future. If you don’t know how to use condom do not be afraid to talk about it with your parent, guardian or educator.
9. Celebrities involved. The Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation actually offers up $100,000 grants to people trying to make better condoms and educate teens, Young Adults and Adults in this matter.
10.Women condom. Condoms are not designed for males only. There’s a female condoms as well and they can be put inside vagina up to 8 hours before sex.
11. Lubricant helps. External lubricants are meant to ease sex. However, bear in mind that you can only use water-based lubricants with condoms – if you’re using oil or petroleum-based products they can react with the condom, render the latex and damage it.
12.Condom’s damage. What shall you do if condom breaks? If it’s before intercourse, obviously you start afresh with a new one. Never re-use condoms. If it’s in the middle of things, you must wash yourself immediately and thoroughly. A viable option is to take an emergency contraceptive pill however this is not the best solution since repeated consumption can really mess around with your hormonal cycle. You can also take a home pregnancy test (approximately 21 days after the event). Don’t forget to get yourself tested for STDs . If you notice that this has happened more than once with the same brand or variant of condom, best to switch to a different one And you must ALWAYS check the expiry date of a condom before using it. If you use an expired one, all bets are off.
Is it love or just friendship? Posted 18-NOV-16 | Admin
Is it love or just friendship? This is the hardest question everyone asks in the crucial life’s moments. You had been friends with somebody who they like a lot and suddenly some hard to describe feeling are coming out. You're up all night wondering what exactly this person meant in that conversation you had that afternoon, did she/he tried to caught your eyes, why did you dream about that person last night. Seems familiar right? No matter what the reason is, it’s perfect time to dig a bit more into your feelings and try to answer the question and face the truth. In this article we will present a few teen tips to help you differentiate between love and friendship.
Signs for friendship:
You feel truly happy if your friend is dating someone and do not find it as a problem or reason to be jealous. If your close friend is telling that she/he found a perfect date and you feel happy and supportive about it, then well it’s a dead end of love and for sure there’s only a friendship between both of you. If you feel jealous or angry that your friend is going to have a date, then you should have an honest talk about it.
You feel comfortable around your friend at all times no matter of situation. That includes farts and any other unpleasant behavior. No makeup or no shower day as well. If you feel good around your mate and do not feel ashamed then it’s a true signs of real friendship.
You can go a few days without talking and you’re okay with this. If you are not that much curious about where your friend is right now, what she/he is doing and why you do not receive a message from that person then probably you’re only friends. Friends or even good friends can be out of touch for few days or even weeks without worrying about each other.
Everyone around you knows you're just friends. Doesn’t matter if you are longtime friends or your friendship just started, some of signs are so clear and screaming at other people that you and your ate are just friends. If you clear this up you will avoid any uncomfortable questions from the others, and improve your chances of having a real date.
Signs for love:
You're never happy with your friend's date, girlfriend/boyfriend and you feel jealous. Have you found that every person your friend has ever introduced to you has been too stupid, ugly, cocky, annoying, frivolous, or just plain not good enough for a friend of yours? If so, then you might be in love with your friend but you’ve been trapped in a friend zone.
You feel awkward or nervous around your friend. You feel ashamed and your hands are sweating when you see your friend coming up to you, or pass you by. However you feel like it’s all been normal a few weeks ago. You find yourself thinking way too much what to say, what to do and what to show without being judged. The point of not feeling comfy with your friend anymore is a sign that you want something else than a friendship.
You wonder constantly what he or she is up to. Instead of old friends rule where even you don’t keep in touch for few days things are normal between you and your mate, you start to worry and thinking deeply most of the part of the day what she/he is doing, who she/he is going to meet or having for lunch.
You're super overprotective of your friend. As we mention above you start thinking about your friend all day, and when you can’t see him/her, you’re going crazy. Being overprotective and over reacting for any kind of situation, even those slightly dangerous can lead you to one conclusion. However it’s good to worry about a friend but if you feel an over whelming protection you might be fallen in love.
You have to talk to each other at least once a day. Do you have to contact your friend as soon as you wake up, call him/her whenever you have a break at school, meet him/her every day or at least few times per week and you’re going insane if you have no idea what your mate is doing? This is clear sign of being in love with that person. However too often contacts with non-important reasons might destroy your friendship right away.
Everyone is asking if you're dating or in love. There’s no clear relation between two of you and people are asking uncomfortable questions. Everyone can see chemistry between you two, and think it’s only a matter of time when you guys start dating for real.
Finding out if it’s love or just friendship is not an easiest matter for teenagers however if you analyze your behavior toward a friend using our tips, for sure sooner or later you will be able to figure out what’s your feelings are. We do recommend to keep things easy and just be yourself. If it’s love, you will realize this in proper moment. If it’s just a friendship take care of it in the best way you can do.