Just few days ago that my sister wanted to fall in love intermittently and continued to enjoy being single. This person sent me a message last night saying that she was off the single, and I was a black question mark on face.
She was really confused, confused, and Buddhist about emotions before, and recently she quietly interacted with a boy without telling us.
Now that the relationship is confirmed, my sister is excited to say that she has finally waited for the person she likes, and feels that she is still very lucky to have met someone she likes, and the other party also likes her very much, and she thinks everything is worth it. Very grateful.
Listening to my sister’s words, I knew that she was now in love and intoxicated. At this time, she was more emotionally in love.
In fact, love can be divided into emotional love and rational love, and true love is emotional love plus ideal love. It is rationally feeling suitable for each other and wanting to be together, but emotionally also feeling happy and wanting to be together.
It’s like having two boys chasing you at the same time. One boy has invested a lot in you and paid a lot. You are also very suitable in all aspects and get along well.
The other boy has not invested anything in you, and your conditions in all aspects are obviously inappropriate, but you will feel very happy with the second boy, especially happy, that is rational love and emotional love.
When outsiders see such a situation, they will definitely think that they have to choose the first boy, but you, the person involved, chose the second person, and even your subconscious thinks that you will not last long.
Such a relationship, then, is emotional love.
The following 4 behaviors can easily make women feel that this man is true love, form emotional love, and become too excited to enter an intimate relationship:
I believe you should have heard the story of the princess and the knight. The princess told the knight who liked her that if he could stay outside her window for a hundred days and nights, the princess would agree to his pursuit.
The first ninety-nine day and night knights persevered, and on the evening of the last day, the knight put down the rose and left by himself.
For many who read this story, they may feel that it is a pity that the princess and the knight will be able to be together just one night away. Some people say that the knight persisted for 99 nights and left on the 100th day to protect himself. dignity.
In fact, this knight really loves the princess, and he also knows how to love himself and what kind of intimacy is good.
If an intimate relationship is facilitated by the indomitable pursuit of one party, it must not last long.
- If you need the unrelenting pursuit of the other party to agree to be together, then you are more moved than love.
- The core of a long-term relationship is equality. The other party has taken 99 steps to you, and you are unwilling to take one step. Such an unbalanced relationship will end the relationship sooner or later because one party’s greed is amplified, or one party is demanded and consumed. .
We also have many students who encounter boys who pursue them relentlessly, pick them up to and from get off work, send a bouquet of flowers to the office every week to show their sense of presence and sovereignty, bombarded with various gifts.
Such an overly attentive pursuit, in fact, he is not true love, he is just caught in that emotion, maybe he just wants to conquer you.
And after you are with him, there is a high probability that you will feel that he has changed, because of the indomitable pursuit and all kinds of considerate care, these things cannot be maintained forever.
I’ve always wanted to have sex with you
Some girls think that boys are very good to them. They have always had such a strong sexual desire for themselves. They must like them. Otherwise, there may be no need for boys to spend time and energy doing so many things in order to sleep with her.
But not necessarily, an important reason why a man wants to establish an intimate relationship and want to fall in love is adrenaline and testosterone, which are the physiological basis for his sexual desire.
And a boy who really likes you, he wants to sleep with you, but not just want to sleep with you all the time. He prefers to enjoy every minute and every heartbeat with you.
I like everything about you
Women are sensual creatures and like to talk sweetly, but when a man expresses to you that he likes everything about you, you need to be vigilant, not blindly plunge into a relationship that may be scarred.
Women must not fall in love by ear! No one really likes everything about a person, even the flaws and all the bad things.
It is impossible for a person to have no shortcomings. The other party sees your shortcomings. This will not affect your relationship. Only his perception of your shortcomings will affect you.
Being critical and dissatisfied will make you conflicted, while tolerance and running-in will make you longer and more stable.
willing to give everything for you
Whether you can answer “are you willing to give everything for your parents” without thinking, I think most people may need to think about it before answering this question, and the answer is not necessarily “I do”.
Someone, who has tens of millions of fans, said in the variety show that the first place in life is himself, the second place is his spouse, the third place is his children, and the fourth place is his parents.
This ranking has been well received, and many people have begun to think about the impact of “self” and “self” on interpersonal relationships. Isn’t there a saying that “only those who love themselves are more likely to be loved”?
Therefore, if a man is willing to give everything for you at this time, he must have said such a thing without a trace of reason, and he will definitely regret it later, and he will not do it.
Promises are easy to say, but hard to do. He can easily say all kinds of promises, usually very impulsive, without thinking, and the promises that are easily said are generally not realized.
Maybe you even need to summon up the courage to say things like “I like you”, “I miss you”, and he has to say things like “I only love you for the rest of my life”, “I want to live with you forever”, “I want to see your parents” Can easily blurt out.
You think you have met true love, but in fact he is just an emotional man with no brains. His current enthusiasm and passion for you are dominated by emotions and desires. It will rise and fade quickly.
If you fall into feelings for him easily because of his emotional investment in you, then when his emotions subside, your emotions and feelings have heated up to a certain depth and height, so the other party withdraws, and you cannot accept it. parefull.