Dating apps and websites increase your exposure to the entire dating pool. Unfortunately, with more people comes more rejections. Your self-esteem can take a blow every time someone tells you that they don’t want to be with you and are looking for someone else.
Between all the chaos and the hurt, you need to pace yourself and remain calm. Don’t let it get to you. Here are some friendly reminders to help you deal with rejection on dating sites:
It’s not you, it’s them (truly)
Whenever we hear someone say, “It’s not you, it’s me,” we think of it as a lousy excuse designed to push us away, which is true sometimes. However, when it comes to online dating, these words hold true to themselves.
When someone rejects you, it does not mean that you are a horrible person. It simply means that they are looking for someone else, someone who matches their lifestyle. And you just don’t happen to be that someone. So don’t take it personally.
You can’t be perfect for everyone
Avoid having unrealistic expectations, such as everyone liking you just because you’re a good person. You are not for everyone, just as not everyone is for you.
People have different preferences, they could be looking for a different type of person, and there is nothing you can do to change them. Respect their choices and move on to someone who not only accepts you but also cherishes your existence.
Your worth is not defined by others’ approval of you
Don’t place your self-worth in other’s approval of you. If someone ghosts you, it could mean many things. They could be busy with work, or they found someone else. But I can assure you that it has nothing to do with you as a person. You deserve love even if no one approves of you, whether it’s on dating sites or in real life.
There is plenty of fish in the sea
As cliche as it may sound, there really is plenty of fish in the sea. Don’t let that one rejection or even multiple rejections hold you back from approaching another person. Who knows, maybe the next one will turn out to be the love of your life. However, you don’t need to be on the lookout for love all the time. Take a break, and start fresh!